“In spite of the calamities of the past eight years, there continues to be no shortage of neoconservatives in one’s face in the media, advising their fellow Americans that wars can be won quickly and decisively and that using military force to change how other nations behave is sound policy.”—Campaign For Liberty — Changing the Narrative for War by Philip Giraldi
I agree with most things you write but monogamy is a protection you need in this society. Polygamy is only possible in an egalitarian society where everybody has the option to have different partners and still survive without material and emotional suffering.
In capitalism only the rich, popular and beautiful can afford polygamy, everybody else will suffer.
I’ve visited a community once where they practiced polygamy. The community protected those relationships. Without a community polygamy is even worse than monogamy. There are more problems and limitations, especially for women once there are kids.
You’re entitled to your own opinion and I respect that. Hey, whatever works for you. I never said polygamy was the way to go. I don’t think polygamy is the answer. Not at all. Quite frankly, I would never be in a polygamous relationship. I simply said fuck monogamy. If you would have read it a little more thoroughly you would have seen the direction I was going with that. I clearly said, “Non-monogamy isn’t about sex, it’s a general approach to relationships with people.”
As far as what you said, “In capitalism only the rich, popular and beautiful can afford polygamy, everybody else will suffer.” That’s a narrow-minded way of looking at it. Polygamy is not a new concept. It’s been around for many, many centuries. Polygamy existed all over Africa as an aspect of culture and religion. Many African societies saw children as a form of wealth, so the more children a family had the more powerful it was. Polygamy was part of empire building. It was only during the colonial era that multiple marriage was perceived as taboo. But it wasn’t just in Africa. Polygamy was (and in some places still is), socially accepted.
I did not contest the fact that polygamy existed as an accepted way of life in history or that it exists today. The contrary is the case, I even pointed that I’ve have visited a community where it has been practiced.
Also you might call your concept what you like, non-monogamy or whatever, that’s not the point. I was talking about the feasibility of such a concept while you seem to prefer to talk about it as if it only is a dream.
In modern society it just doesn’t work like that and many people have tried before. Just think Sartre and de Beauvoir. Also now that you refer to women of color and African heritage. Matriarchal societies allowed such non-monogamy. Most women of color today live in societies with the worst patriarchal structures you can imagine. Just think USA and most African countries today.
“Greening” capitalism is like “greening” the Titanic — it’s aesthetically pleasing, but sooner or later it is still going to run into something.”—James Shelley on the push for a “Green Economy” (via patdryburgh)